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Getting Organized - Chris Hemsworth - The Perfect Day Before

I have sporadic OCD cleaning moments around the house.  But then I get lazy and I am cured.  It's a very inconsistent personality trait.

from: Chris Hemsworth - actor

 It has been about two months and everything but work at the office was put on hold.  The summer rush of tutoring.  But most of my international students are on their way back to Dana Hall, Exeter, Andover, and other major private schools in America.  The international schools in Bangkok are open and soon I'll be back to a normal schedule.

 I have been attracted to a title for a book:  The Perfect Day Before.  I think this is necessary to then have "the perfect day."  I have read personal growth books (on and off) for most of my adult life.  One of the pieces of advice that I dislike is to describe "a perfect day."  As if this will magically happen due to unicorns or angels or a djinn granting a wish.  Then what?  Live in disappointment for the rest of one's life?  Oiy vey!

 Clean up the messes one has.  Or, in one of the laziest pieces of advice, "cleaning up your room."  This gem comes from Jordan Peterson, author of "12 Rules for Life." But, it is easy to remember and has that ear-wing quality of not being able to shake it off.  He is a psychologist and they know how buttons are pushed.  I am not saying it is bad - just lazy.  And very reminiscent of the "make your bed" quote by Admiral McRaven.  It is catchy and slick.

 Getting out of your swampy and murky life is hard and takes more time than to clean your room or make your bed.  Trying to unravel the inflicted (by self and others) knots and issues of years or decades takes time and effort.  While I appreciate the platitudes, they are fooling people that a small effort will make a big difference.

 What makes a big difference is . . . a big difference.  The Chinese saying, "A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step" is a more nearly honest view.  

 SO - 1)  Plot the journey and 2) Begin walking. 

Gratitudes:  Podcasts, attractive distractions, and wine.
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